The German woman is as complex as any woman in the world (go figure). But there are some ways in which I just cannot understand their inner-workings. Many of the men/boys here complain that the German woman/girls are just very tough – independent – self-reliant – to the point where they don’t even need men in their life (umm most woman in today’s world think the same).
However, I understand where the men are coming from because in my experience the woman here find it offensive if a male offers help in carrying something heavy e.g. furniture when you’re moving. This doesn’t always happen but most of the times the response by the female is a bit derogatory towards the male, implying that she can manage herself and doesn’t need any help (no comment).
Talking to one of my ‘strong self-independant’ girlfriend’s about this very matter – she responded by saying “the gentleman left Germany a long time ago.” I pondered over this statement for hours in my long bus ride. Im well-informed that Germany has had a tough history, perhaps the German woman grew to be tough as a consequence of these events, facing situations where men were away at war and they had to fend for themselves and this became an integral part of who they are. Either way, I get the feeling that German men and woman are tough as hell, sometimes the women are even tougher!!
Speaking of tough women, only two days ago I bumped into a colleague who is expecting. She was casually browsing through some items at a shop when I met her and asked when she was due – her response left me shell-shocked!! “Two days” she said nonchalantly. It took me a few seconds to register this information because for me a women in her 9 month meant she stays home and relaxes while the family pampers her, since she is in no condition to be running around town. BUT, here I was standing in front one of the gentlest women I had encountered with a full belly, doing her chores, riding her bike as if it was just another day. We even met up for coffee a day later and I swear I couldn’t help but repeat how awesome it is that the German woman (majority of them) take their pregnancies in stride as if it’s as normal as breathing.
Coming from a society where everyone has two words to add to what you must or mustn’t do, the pregnant woman is looked upon as a delicate vulnerable creature who is rendered incapable of performing chores, even if she wants to! To the point, where the woman herself feels helpless and thinks she can’t perform menial day-to-day tasks because it might affect her child negatively – thank God for the new generation of doctors who are changing this mind set and women can now go about their work and jobs normally! Hallelujah!
So here’s to the awesome German women I know – the Mother’s who brought up their daughters to be as tough as men, and the girls who know their worth and won’t let their male counterparts find any reason to think they are not equal – maybe in some ways they’re even better :p